Friday, April 24, 2009
Today I got the opportunity to write something on 'Mother' as its Mothers Day and I feel extremely proud to participate and write something today. Well, it is really hard to write about Mom so easily in a few words but I am feeling so lucky and am so delighted to express my excitement for writing something for this special day. As, I got the chance to share my feelings worldwide. This is the day , very special, very important and very pious for all of us. Why?The reason is very simple. We are all here because of our mom.
But did anyone know this is the same feelings for our mother too. I will tell you why? Though, I believe in Art of Living and I remember the words of Rajneesh, he well-said that 'the moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.' He is absolutely right. Because a woman is never complete until she become a mother. When she becomes mother of her own child, she is a complete woman, woman full of love, patience, power, energy and knowledge, indeed.
Well, the word 'Mother', is so divine, that the heart beat so fast just in her name itself and sometimes stops at once when you think of her. Nevertheless, her love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible things in the world. One can do anything in this world if one's Mom is there, encourages and boosting up the spirit to do impossible things possible. Without her, its like bank without money, fishes without water, beauty without smile and a man without humanity.
Have you ever wondered why Mother's Day is celebrated? I had the same question in my mind but with times I understood now what would be the actual reason behind the celebration of Mothers Day. Each and everyday, she do lots of things for us, busy all the time, right from cooking, cleaning, washing, managing all things properly but hardly gets time for herself but did she ever said anything? No, never. So I think she must get at least one off from her daily scheduled life and let her take it easy and relax while the rest of the family does the work. And so I think, this one day is chosen to thank her and make her special for being so kind, so loving and so caring for us. Though celebrating motherhood is a historical tradition dating back almost as far as mothers themselves. Perhaps the country's greatest proponent of motherhood is Mothers Day, I think.
What I feel that she must also know how special she is in her child's life, so, on Mothers Day, I let my mom relax and let her see what a wonderful family she has. I may sometimes forget the words she said to me but I always remember the tune of her. I know, my mother loves me very much but she never expresses in words. But you know, the best conversations with my mothers always take place in silence, when we are alone, then only the heart speaks. She melt down so easily and her silence speaks up everything. Yes, silence speaks louder than words, I know. All I can say, my mom is a rhythm of my life in my heart of comfort, peace, happiness, and the whole being.
Many families celebrates Mother's Day in different ways and I too, celebrate this day with great enthuasism. Usually I want my mom sleep late till I ask her to wake up but as usual she wake up early before me and go into the kitchen to prepare her breakfast but I didn't let her do anything except relax. I prepare breakfast for my mom, her favourite " Aloo Parathe" with "Badam lassi". But last year, I celebrated differently. I thought to give her a surprise. I took her to the beauty parlour, get her well groomed and then went shopping in her favourite saree shop "Sanghi" and by the end of the day, a surprised dinner in her favourite restaurant "Kaveri". Whole day, we enjoyed so much. She was so happy.
My mother is very special, not because I am her daughter but because she has done so much for her kids. Being a mother of us, she never differentiated her daughter and a son. She equally loves her children whether it's a girl or a boy. To be very frank, she is the divine power by my side. I feel I can do anything in this world if she is there showering her love and blessings upon me. So, I think Mothers Day is the day to thank her for everything she has done for me and so Mothers Day is very special to me. Now I just want to say " I love you, Mom!", Thanks for being my mother and a guide who mean a world to me.
If you always seem to be angry then it's maybe time that you found out how to deal with anger. Not just for your own sake but also for the sake of the people around you.
Sure, there are lots of things to be angry about in our busy modern day life. But is it worth it? You're winding yourself up and alienating the people who care about you most. Hopefully the next statement isn't going to wind you up further, but you're maybe also being passed over for promotion because of your anger.
So it's time to do something about it!
Get angry at your anger!
1. Can you change the situation?
If you're getting angry about something over which you have no control, why are you letting it get under your skin? Some things were meant to bug us - heavy traffic on the freeway, the way the queue you've joined always moves the slowest, that kind of thing. But if you can't change the situation, don't get worked up about it. Because that will likely make it worse. Road rage will make you a worse driver and more likely to have an accident. Shouting and cursing at the cashier will put them into even slower mode and make their attitude worse.
2. Can you change how you react?
Now this one is actually under your control. You decide how you're going to react to something. OK, at the moment it's maybe hard-wired into your system that you fly off the handle at the slightest provocation. But that's your decision. Ultimately, your anger is your choice. Make a different choice next time - even if it's only a short 5 or 10 second "time out" before you let loose. Experiment. Catch yourself starting to get angry (you already know the triggers) and change your reaction. Even if it's only for a few seconds at first. Don't get angry about this - you've taken years to learn how to be the perfect angry person, don't expect to change to Mr or Mrs Nice overnight.
3. Small steps are often best
The last thing you want is to be sent on an anger management course against your will. You'll just be there growling with a group of other angry people. So start making the changes yourself. Small ones are good because your natural instincts won't fight them off. Turn the volume of your shouts down a notch. Cut your anger session short by a few seconds. Remember to breathe! This last tip is a good one - take a long deep breath, just like your mother told you to do when you were upset as a child. Fill your lungs with air - but not in preparation to shout at the object of your anger, just to feel better in yourself if only for a moment or two.
4. Congratulate and treat yourself when you control your anger
Chances are in the first stages no-one else will notice that you were less angry than normal. But you will. Congratulate yourself. Maybe even buy yourself a small treat. We work well with positive rewards, so give yourself a reward when you've curbed your anger.
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